{"id":376654,"date":"2024-10-29T13:52:22","date_gmt":"2024-10-29T13:52:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.gaytimes.com\/?p=376654"},"modified":"2024-10-29T14:16:26","modified_gmt":"2024-10-29T14:16:26","slug":"lesbian-ghosting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.gaytimes.com\/love-sex\/lesbian-ghosting\/","title":{"rendered":"Should lesbians get a guilt-free ghosting pass?"},"content":{"rendered":"

In her column DYKE DRAMA, GT’s own “sapphic Carrie Bradshaw” rings in spooky season by exploring ghosting in the sapphic community.<\/p>\n

WORDS ANYA SCHULMAN<\/strong>
\nCOVER IMAGE ‘DIE VISION DER KATHARINA VON ARAGON’ (1781) BY HENRY FUSELI<\/strong><\/p>\n

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The witching season is upon us, and even though my period is no longer perfectly synced with the full moon, something spooky is afoot. I\u2019m not talking about the ever-growing trend of people using Esty witches to deliver comeuppance to their exes or get someone to text them back. I\u2019m not even talking about the fact that I think a witchy girl I may or may not have done dirty four years ago (not in a fun way, and truly one of the only times I\u2019ve really behaved like a f*ckboy in a gay way) has placed a strong and enduring curse on my love life.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

I\u2019m talking about ghosts.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

You see, if you subscribe to the official cuffing season calendar (which is bullsh*t and our generation\u2019s digital version of the commercialisation of Valentine\u2019s Day), scouting was over the summer, drafting top candidates happens in September, and tryouts are now, with pre-season happening in November, and, at long last, cuffing season taking place in the December holidays, culminating in Valentine\u2019s Day as the championship game.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I think I\u2019ve been doing this all wrong, because I tend to have whirlwind romances in January (maybe because of my Capricorn stellium idk) that fall apart in the weeks after I craft them a thoughtful, homemade Valentine. But I\u2019ve also had someone to text the last few Novembers. And as an American, the next best thing to bringing home your partner for Thanksgiving (which we are considering a family meal that appropriately and accurately acknowledges the unfair treatment of Indigenous Americans by settlers through present day), is having someone to send updates to throughout the whole ritual. Why is exchanging pictures of each other\u2019s cousins and plates of mashed potatoes\u2026weirdly hot? Column re: holiday loneliness and modern indications of lifestyle compatibility to follow.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

There seems to be a disproportionate amount of people who drop off once sweaters start to be layered over our white tanks. Is it because Halloweekend is second only to Pride in the opportunities it offers for gay chaos and people want to keep their options open? Or maybe because summer was so fruitful for some they\u2019ve skipped tryouts all together and the way you\u2019ll find out you didn\u2019t make the cut is their hard launch via couple\u2019s costume? It could even be because the colder weather makes it easier to avoid people and the diminished risk of public run-ins causes a lapse in responsible communication. Point being, it\u2019s ghosting season.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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