{"id":1429081,"date":"2025-04-15T16:10:53","date_gmt":"2025-04-15T15:10:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.gaytimes.com\/?p=1429081"},"modified":"2025-04-15T16:10:53","modified_gmt":"2025-04-15T15:10:53","slug":"non-monogamy-playbook-ruby-rare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.gaytimes.com\/love-sex\/non-monogamy-playbook-ruby-rare\/","title":{"rendered":"Polycurious? We have just the thing for your TBR pile"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ruby Rare speaks to GAY TIMES to celebrate the release of The Non-Monogamy Playbook, a modern guide to navigating the world of non-monogamy.<\/p>\n

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Sometimes it can feel like there isn\u2019t a single queer person who hasn\u2019t tried non-monogamy at some point \u2013 but of course, as a polyamorous person myself, this is what I would say. While folks are certainly more aware of non-monogamy than ever before, and a thriving online community has cropped up of polyamory influencers creating educational content, it can sometimes be hard to know exactly how to begin, and continue to navigate, your non-monogamous journey.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Specifically, it\u2019s easy to feel uncertain when it comes to finding the answers to questions plaguing us at different points of our non-monogamous journey: from how to <\/span>close an open relationship<\/span><\/a> to advice on <\/span>navigating whorephobic non-monogamous partners<\/span><\/a> (hint: dump them!), or even tips on <\/span>coming out as polyamorous to your family<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s where the community\u2019s love of relationship handbooks comes in: whether it\u2019s picking up a well-thumbed copy of <\/span>The Ethical Slut<\/span><\/i>, lending a friend a copy of <\/span>Polysecure<\/span><\/i> to navigate some metamour drama, or downloading a PDF of legendary guide <\/span>The Short Instructional Manifesto for Relationship Anarchy.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

The latest entry into the canon of non-monogamy advice? <\/span>The Non-Monogamy Playbook<\/span><\/i>, from writer, educator and veritable icon Ruby Rare. Accessible, thorough and distinctly unpatronising (an important quality in self-help books, believe me) the book provides necessary context about the non-monogamous community, while succinctly explaining some of the subculture\u2019s key terms. But it\u2019s not all talk and no action \u2013 there are a range of prompts and thought-starters to help readers deepen their understanding of non-monogamy and begin to put these teachings into practice.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Below, we catch up with Rare to discuss her own non-monogamy journey and explore the intersections between the queer and polyamorous communities.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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