{"id":1415557,"date":"2024-12-27T14:26:03","date_gmt":"2024-12-27T14:26:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.gaytimes.com\/?p=1415557"},"modified":"2025-01-29T13:44:31","modified_gmt":"2025-01-29T13:44:31","slug":"is-it-ever-safe-to-show-your-full-crazy-self-in-a-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.gaytimes.com\/love-sex\/is-it-ever-safe-to-show-your-full-crazy-self-in-a-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Even as a lesbian, is it ever safe to show your full, \u2018crazy\u2019 self in a relationship?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00a0<\/span>In her column <\/span>DYKE DRAMA, GT’s own \u2018sapphic Carrie Bradshaw\u2019 explores the pros and cons of presenting a more ~palatable~ version of yourself to a prospective partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

WORDS ANYA SCHULMAN<\/strong>
\nIMAGE MEDUSA BY CARAVAGGIO, 1595 – 1598<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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It\u2019s a New Year, the world grows scarier for queer people by the day, and grapes are only just now coming back into stock at my local bodega. <\/span><\/h4>\n

Usually we try to enter January serene, healthy, and hopeful. But 2025 is not a year to \u201cprotect your peace\u201d by being quiet. I\u2019d argue that protecting our peace now actually means being quite loud about what we take issue with, especially at a global scale. And actually doing something about it. Who cares if you come across as too passionate, so long as you look back on the year and know you stood for what you believe is right?\u00a0<\/span><\/h4>\n

We\u2019re often told it\u2019s important to wait to show your full self to a potential partner, lest you scare them away. But over the past few years, I\u2019ve realised that litmus testing someone this way can actually be helpful. Do you really want to be with someone you give the ick by speaking your mind once in a while, or with someone who\u2019d go down swinging right besides you? What got me thinking about this was an ~ interaction ~ I had on Fire Island over the summer.<\/span><\/p>\n

This past Labor Day, I went to Fire Island to help produce Doll Invasion, a celebration designed to bring trans women to Fire Island. As it happens, Fire Island Pines isn\u2019t a particularly welcoming place for anyone other than a cis gay man. **With notable exceptions, like the team behind the gorgeous Visitor\u2019s Center store <\/span>\u2013 <\/span>their dairy-free soft serve is a godsend for any lactose intolerant lesbians in the vicinity. People always think I\u2019m vegan but I\u2019m just deeply lactose intolerant and gay.**\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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